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CARE HOME ROW MAY SPLIT DEVOTED COUPLE AFTER 60 YEARS

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Frail Iris and Thomas Bashford could be facing life apart

Tuesday May 20,2008

By Martin Evans

DEVOTED couple Thomas and Iris Bashford have been virtually inseparable since the day he returned from fighting for his country more than 60 years ago.

Now they face living apart after council chiefs decided Thomas, 82, should move into a residential care home.

But their family has been told frail Iris, 81, who is blind and relies on her husband for day-to-day tasks, will not be able to join him.

The couple – who celebrate their diamond wedding this year – fear they will be unable to cope without each other.

Thomas, who served on a minesweeper in the Mediterranean during the Second World War, has health problems and recently had a heart attack.

He said: “I feel pretty grim about the future. The war didn’t split us up but this could. I never thought I would see the day when I was separated from my wife.

“We have both worked our whole life, paying into the system. I am not happy we are being treated like this.”

Their problems began when Thomas was admitted to Southampton General Hospital where doctors ruled that his health needs were not being met at home. They found him a place in a care home in Southampton, but the family were told Iris would not be able to move in with him because there was not the funding available.

Iris, who met Thomas in 1942 and married him in 1948 when he left the Royal Navy, said: “I don’t want to be without him. I am very upset and angry. Apart from the war and hospital we have never been away from each other.

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“I think things would have been different years ago. Old people used to be treated differently.”

Their daughter Lynne Kotchie met with Hampshire County Council, social services and specialists to discuss her father’s care and was told he had been awarded a place at a care home.

But social services said the funding was not available for her mother.

Mrs Kotchie said: “We are still trying to establish what we are entitled to. If they have to split up, it will be like having a limb cut off for them.

“They just won’t survive without each other. I don’t know how mum is expected to get by without dad.

“He is her eyes and she can barely move about at home without feeling her way around the furniture.”

The couple may now be forced to sell their home in order to fund the care they need.

A Southampton University Hospital NHS Trust spokesman said no decision had yet been made and that all options would be looked at in full cooperation with the family.

Pressure has been mounting on the Government to act to stop elderly couples being forced apart in their final years.

In March, Health Secretary Alan Johnson called on councils to build more sheltered accommodation aimed at housing couples rather than individuals.

For a person to qualify for free continuing care they must prove to their health authority that their primary need is a medical one – not a social one.


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CARE HOMES

21.05.08, 9:07am

The amount of money that is wasted in the NHS with millions of pounds spent on unusable and unsuitable computer systems, and management waste would fund this couple for the rest of their lives together, the strain and stress of being kept apart would be a backward step for these two, and would not benefit anybody. Let common sense prevail. If only the public knew just how much money was wated, and if it had to be published, there would be a riot.

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20 YEARS IN MANAGEMENT, MY ARSE

21.05.08, 12:00am

After twenty years running a business, you should have got to grips with spelling by now!

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I'VE FOUND THE MONEY FOR HER !

20.05.08, 11:41pm

Another Express story:
"The National Fraud Initiative (NFI), carried out every two years by the Audit Commission, has uncovered £140 million in fraudulent benefit claims in 2006/07."
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Well well well ....140 million quid doled out incorrectly, eh ?
Makes about £300 a week for a care home place for an old lady with failing health look cheap doesn't it ? Especially when it's likely to be relatively short term and when she and her husband can share one room.
Come on, Hampshire Social Services, try to find some common sense and a soul between the lot of you, why don't you.
"Caring"? In Eastenders parlance "You're having a laugh !"

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ENOUGH !

20.05.08, 11:25pm

I'm sorry, but this situation is an absolute bloody disgrace.
Our abominable government seems to be able to find money for lazy people who are perfectly able to work but choose not to do so, young women who get themselves pregnant by a feckless irresponsible father and then throw themselves and their kid on the benefits system for the next 18 years, immigrants who waltz into this country demanding homes medical care and financial benefits having never contributed a penny to our welfare system, state sponsored drugs for drug addicts, sky tv for prisoners, and numerous other undeserving causes, not to mention awarding MPs themselves millions of pounds of our money in tax-free and unproven "expenses" .... but cannot find the small amount of money needed to keep together this devoted old couple and others like them ? ? ?

It seems to me obvious that our rulers have absolutely got their priorities wrong. And it is about time we made them do something about it.

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CARE HOME SPLIT

20.05.08, 10:41pm

This story sounds like complete madness by hampshire county council to me and those responsible for making this decision should hang thier heads in shame also the local mp should be asking questions during this weeks PMQ's to Gordon Brown.
if this council cant be brought to task over this decision i think the elderly couple should take up kazies kind offer

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CARE HOME ROW

20.05.08, 9:21pm

i think its disgusting the way the elderly are treated in this day and age, after all have we all forgotten what they faught for we should never forget the pain and suffering they went through SO i feel they deserve the quality of live TOGETHER, i have been in care for over 20yrs and i am a registered manager and business manager in a care home in southampton and i am willing to offer Mr,Mrs Bashford a place in my home were they can see the rest of there days out together.i can offer a double room at a prefrential couple rate

if you wish to contact me contact me on 02380 466143

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